You know, I hear people say all the time, “I’m just not in love with you anymore.” On TV it is the excuse every person gives for cheating on their spouse or reason for divorce. Here is what people don’t seem to understand. Love isn’t just about sex and about being desirable to the other person. Those things are important to a degree, but that isn’t falling in love…that is falling in lust. Falling in LOVE is spending time with that person and realizing that you want to spend the rest of your life in their company. True love is caring for a person even when they are at their worst. Love is about seeing people at their best (usually in the beginning) and also at their worst and still feeling like a giant hole would be left in your life if they weren’t there. Love means nursing your spouse back to health when they feel that they are at death’s door. It is about sticking together when finances get slim and working towards the same goals. It is about being able to visualize both of you old, saggy, gray, and hurting and know that this is the person you want with you for that journey and nobody else. Love isn’t easy. It requires commitment and work. Hollywood has made it so that people only associate love with the physical aspect, but the reality is that if you truly love someone the physical aspect is only part of the complete package. It’s a bonus if you will. To truly love someone is a commitment. It is being there with and for that person for the rest of your life. The bottom line is that true love is commitment, so the next time you are ogling that person you think you are in love with, picture them fat and bald and missing teeth and if you can honestly say that would be okay then it is love. I’m just sayin…
Here is what the Bible says on the subject:
I Corinthians 13: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels but do not have love, I a merely a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.